Therapy for Relational Trauma
Therapy for relational trauma is a healing process that helps people recover from the deep emotional wounds caused by painful or unsafe relationships—often starting in childhood but sometimes taking place or continuing into adulthood.
Because relational trauma is caused by relationships, healing usually happens through relationships too—especially the safe, consistent, supportive relationship between a client and a therapist.
What Does Therapy Focus On?
Therapy for relational trauma typically includes:
1. Rebuilding Trust
One of the biggest impacts of relational trauma is a loss of trust—in others and in yourself.
A skilled therapist offers a non-judgmental, steady presence, showing you that connection can be safe again.
2. Recognising Patterns
You may find yourself stuck in repeated relationship dynamics—being the caregiver, avoiding closeness, or staying in toxic cycles.
Therapy helps you become aware of these patterns and where they come from, so you can choose differently.
3. Coming to Terms with What has Happened
Sometimes we need to revist the past in order to build our future.
Therapy helps you reprocess traumatic experiences safely and develop alternative ways of making sense of your suffering.
4. Healing the Inner Child
Many people carry unmet childhood needs into adulthood—still seeking love, validation, or safety.
Inner child work helps address those needs in a compassionate and empowering way.
5. Managing and Expressing Emotions in Healthier Ways
Trauma can leave your nervous system constantly on edge.
Therapy teaches grounding, mindfulness, and emotional regulation tools so you’re not always stuck in fight, flight, or freeze.
6. Rewriting Your Story
Relational trauma can shape your identity—making you feel unworthy, unlovable, or like you’re ‘not good enough’.
Therapy helps you rewrite those internal narratives with compassion, and self-acceptance.
Types of Therapy Often Used
Trauma-Focused Therapy (TF-CBT, TF-ACT) – Helps you reprocess traumatic memories safely and make sense of your traumas.
Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT) – Focuses on nurturing your child & adult selves, and learning to approach yourself with compassion and understanding.
Attachment-Informed Therapy – Focuses on how early attachment wounds influence your current relationships.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) – Helps you connect with and heal different "parts" of yourself, especially those shaped by past pain.
Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) – Helps process and reduce distress from past traumatic memories.
What Healing Can Feel Like
Setting boundaries without guilt.
Trusting your instincts.
Feeling safe in your own skin.
Cultivating self-acceptance and self-compassion.
Knowing your needs matter.
Experiencing relationships that are respectful and nourishing.
Building a more fulfilling life for yourself.
Healing from relational trauma takes time. It’s not about fixing yourself—you’re not broken. It’s about gently tending to the parts of you that were hurt in unsafe relationships and learning to build new connections rooted in trust, safety, and love.